「累格」-" lag" in English. Originally means trailing behind, dilly-dally and slowing down etc. In the internet age, the word has found a new definition in the form of screen freezing.
Netizens in Taiwan translates "lag" directly into 「累格」(lei4 ge2), because of the similarity in phonetics and meaning. It is widely used and accepted, thus became a common lingo in the chinese side of inter web.
In computing term, during the heat of a online gaming, if the screen freezes, lagging occurs; While loading a web page on the browser with the hourglass (or rainbow beach ball for that matter...) spinning non-stop and finally comes to a failed to load page, lagging occurs; while streaming or downloading a movie or MP3, and it comes to a halt, again lagging occurs.
In the land of Love, lagging happens too. When two lovers are completely not in the same tune, frequency thought and feeling, or sometimes even in conversation, that's lagging for you.
The cause of lagging comes from a million sources, more often than not due to human cause, the most important key lies on the "communication" between two person. Maintaining a relationship requires effort from the heart, although one is not judge on how much effort he pours in, but often from the behavior we can determine one's motive and thoughts.
In a relationship that ages multiple years, it often comes to a point when a situation of lagging must be faced, with the main culprit of the "take it for granted" attitude. "I thought he would understand..." is an age old excuse used too many times to explain one's ignorance. Just because of "I thought", therefore we take for granted and assume that the other party would understand.
Communications between a couple is not limited to only speech, but the connection between the minds and the bodies are no less important too. When two persons are living in the same place (in this context: country), although there's still concern for each other, but there's a lack of attention to each other when meeting face to face, the bodily contact is also sorely missing, lest the lack of common interests and topics. When each prefers to find his own thing or man to do, no doubt this is already Lagging.
If two were in a long distance relationship or one party is posted to a foreign land, with them under a different sky, breathing a different air, experiencing a different life or in a totally different environment, all these hinders the acceleration of the relationship. Just with the few factors mentioned above, it is enough to make two drift apart and cause lagging.
Assuming the environment set above, the most obvious omen to the occurrence of lagging can be seen when two are talking over the phone, two are trying to squeeze their brain dry to think of topics to talk about, or the moment of silences is awkward more than talking, listening to each other's breathe of the phone, this is obviously a sign of Lagging.
The occurrence of lagging hurts, but it is unlike a stab in the heart or slicing apart of intestines. The pain is more subtle, it strikes in the dark, without a chance to prevent, eating your heart away silently...
Whenever a relationship comes to a lagging it usually means an off-key season, doesn't necessarily spell the situation of parting and bidding good-byes. If something can be done at appropriate times, such as increasing the frequency of communication and ways to understand each other better, it will absolutely rekindle the dying flame in a lagging relationship. Love, like a long lasting draught, being inject its well-deserved water and nutrients into its dire phase.
Every relationship has its ups and downs, the key is to have a compromising mindset and an alert awareness, do not dwell and linger in the nostalgic, comfort zone feeling that is long lost after the honeymoon period. If you want to keep your relationship fresh, both parties would have to contribute to the relationship, a one-sided effort won't do.
Just like a lagging computer, give your relationship a reboot once in a while, let the lagging relationship an opportunity of second. third... fifteen wind.
Of course the most important thing is, as long as your heart (feelings) hasn't died.
Lagging is written by one of our writer friends in Blowing Wind, Sotongball was just merely providing the translation for our English readers according to his interpretation, without the original writer's permission still though... The original text is found here.
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